It's natural to want to find a soulmate, or someone with whom you have a deep, spiritual connection. I feel that I've been very fortunate in love, and have always met wonderful people who seem to come into my life at the perfect time. Some of them I have truly felt are soulmates.
SIGNS OF A POSSIBLE SOULMATE
How do you know if you found a soulmate?? I wrote this article on soulmates a while back, but I'd also add that whether someone is a friend or lover, you can likely count them as a soulmate if:
✅ You feel a strong connection with the person: You may feel a sense of familiarity, comfort, and ease when you are with them. With soulmates you often feel like you are seen and understood.
✅ You have similar values and beliefs: You may have similar views on important issues, such as family, relationships, and personal growth.
✅ You support and encourage each other's growth: A soulmate should be someone who encourages and supports your personal growth and development, and who you do the same for in return. If they are constantly negating what you are trying to create, then no matter how much you love them, they are likely not your soulmate. Soulmates help you complete your life's work.
✅ You have a strong emotional connection: A soulmate should be someone with whom you feel a deep emotional connection and who understands and supports your emotional needs. If the connection is rife with friction, misunderstanding, or jealousy, then your person is likely a karmic connection and may even be a twin flame, but is not soulmate.
✅ You have a strong physical connection: A soulmate should be someone with whom you have a strong physical attraction and a good sexual chemistry. Now to be fair, I have a few friends that I absolutely believe are my soulmates and I don't have any physical desire toward them. However, we are physically comfortable; I am safe to cry around them, to get angry, to hug in friendship, and the relationships, when not sexual, feel a lot closer to sibling relationships. I know they have my back.
I also recognize that just because there is a physical connection, that does not make someone your soulmate. Twin flames, or karmic working relationships can also show up vibrantly, and are often mistaken for soulmate connections.
DO YOU REALLY NEED A SOULMATE?
Finding your soulmate is not the key to happiness. There are millions of people in the world you may NEVER have encountered on a soul level, who may be perfect for you and bring you a ton of happiness! Said in another way--you may meet someone who isn't a soulmate, who doesn't have a past life connection, who is brand new to you, and with whom you are deeply happy.
It's more important to work on developing a healthy and fulfilling relationship with yourself, and enjoying the world around you before obsessing about a soulmate relationship with someone else.
That said, there are some steps that you can take to increase your chances of finding your soulmate--and to creating a positive and loving environment in which your soulmate can enter your life.
Here are some steps that you can take to find your soulmate:
STEPS TO FINDING YOUR SOULMATE
1. BE OPEN. Be open to the possibility of finding your soulmate. Let go of any limiting beliefs or fears that might hold you back from finding your soulmate. Instead, open your heart and mind to the possibility of finding your soulmate, and trust that it is possible.
I love to increase my openness by listening to talks about love from Abraham-Hicks, and by listening to books on audible. It helps my mindset!
2. PRACTICE SELF CARE. Take care of yourself. To attract your soulmate into your life, it helps to be in a positive and loving state of mind. This means taking care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Practice self-care, be kind to yourself and others, and surround yourself with positive and uplifting people and experiences.
Think about it this way--would you want to date yourself? Look at your lifestyle, the things you are creating, and what you stand for. Do you feel good about it? If you don't, spend some time where it counts. I know I feel better when I am taking a bit of extra time with my hair, scheduling out events so I have more spontaneous time, and cultivating my friendships; what do you need to do in order to have a life you love and adore?
3. MAKE FRIENDS. Expand your social circle. One of the best ways to increase your chances of finding your soulmate is to expand your social circle and to meet new people. This can be done through activities such as joining clubs, attending social events, or volunteering. The more people you meet, the more likely you are to connect with your soulmate.
In truth, your soulmate is probably just one or two degrees away, and the more you shift your vibration from longing into one of truly enjoying your life and being open to the moment, your soulmate will start to gravitate towards your light.
4. TRUST DIVINE TIMING. Yes, I know you want things yesterday, but there's a reason things work out the way that they do. Be open and receptive. When you are open and receptive to the possibility of meeting your soulmate, you are more likely to attract them into your life. This means being present and aware of your surroundings, and being open to new experiences and opportunities. Trust the process. Finding your soulmate is a journey, and it may not happen overnight. Trust that the universe is working on your behalf and that your soulmate will come into your life when the time is right. Trust that you are being guided and supported, and have faith that your soulmate is out there, waiting for you.
When I was 16 I literally prayed for my soul mate and I met my son's father (my son came much later!). Though we are not together today, I truly feel he came into my life at that time to support me in critical transitions I was going through, and to remind me of the light of my soul purpose. At that same time, several new friends came into my life that were a part of my soul pod. Their presence also helped me to grow in critically important ways. Your actions in opening to your soulmate will not just bring in love, they will bring all forms of support from the people in your life, so think of your soulmate journey as a wonderful adventure in creating a richly textured, enjoyable life.
As always, trust your heart to lead the way, and if you need support in your soulmate journey, reach out to me with your questions. Blessings! ~Dailey
DAILEY LITTLE is a healing practitioner, transformational life coach, ordained Priestess, and teacher who founded Healing Heart Reiki to help others navigate life with joy. She offers private sessions, and teaches classes in healing and mindset from a magical peaceful corner of the world in Northern California. For more info see: www.SantaRosaReiki.com