"WHY AM I ADDICTED TO DRAMA?"
If you grow up in a home filled with drama, arguments, violence, or addiction, your physical body becomes used to the constant influx of stimuli. Acute stress can actually increase dopamine and adrenaline levels, while constant stress ultimately dampens dopamine. What this means is that even the worst experiences also bring a little bit of a rush into your body, but when you are experiencing that over time, it can lead to exhaustion and depression.
So many of my clients have done thought work and therapy prior to coming to me, but those things don't change the actual physiology of what's happening inside of you. If you've spent years dealing with emergency services, or always having to be "on your toes" for work or family, then your body has a deeply ingrained pattern of processing drama, and being rewarded for that engagement.
Even if you've created a better life for yourself, one that's quite positive and peaceful, you might find that something always feels "a little off," or that just as things get quiet, you unconsciously take on new projects or situations that automatically increase stress, so that your body gets that influx of dopamine and adrenaline.
IS THIS REALLY ME?
If you are almost always busy, can't find the time to take care of the things that are most important to you, don't have time for your manifesting goals, or struggling with feast & famine cycles of living whether with money, love, or work, then I'm talking to you. 😊
OR if you're a relatively quiet and calm person with multiple friends whose middle name is. "Drama," and who you are always counseling, bailing out, or supporting until you feel exhausted yourself--then I'm talking to you too.
You're doing a lot of things right, but it's critical to interrupt that chemical pattern that has you addicted to busy-ness or drama filled relationships.
3 CRITICAL WAYS TO HEAL DRAMA & BUSY BEE SYNDROME:
#1) - HEALTHY SUBSTITUTION OF CHAOS FOR POSITIVE HIGH-STIMULATION:
This is something you can do on your own. If you've spent years dealing with high stress situations, or in survival mode, then one thing you can do to begin the process of healing, is to substitute positive rewards instead of bringing in new drama.
For example, if you're used to living in a family that argues all of the time and puts you through the emotional ringer every night, and then you move out on your own, your body will still be addicted to that stimulation, so you'll need to do something else that creates a positive hormonal burst, such as running/walking the neighborhood in the evenings until you work up a mild sweat. This will allow your body to replace the chemical reward from arguing and recovering, with exercising and recovering.
Often, healthy relationships will feel boring or even slightly depressive after the dynamics of toxic or abusive relationships. Even as your body feels relief, you may hunger for more stimulation, leading you to pick fights, take on more than you can handle, over-eat, or other dynamics that recreate the solid punch of adrenaline.
Create new patterns that stimulate your pleasure and stress sensors. Swim in the ocean, hike, dance to loud music, take a boxing class, get massages!
Over time, this shift will allow you to slowly create more space in which you DON'T NEED the extra stimulation at all. Your body will begin to come down, and you can adjust to a life with softer pleasures and self care.
#2)- RECEIVE HANDS ON REIKI ENERGY HEALING & NLP:
Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is another great way to rewire the neural pathways around your pleasure and anger responses, but it's just a beginning! It helps your mind, but your limbic system is speaking to your entire body, so you'll also need to move that energy through your body. That's where Reiki comes in. Reiki is a whole-body healing method that allows your somatic body to fully release emotional patterns. Look into energy healing with someone you trust. I've seen dozens of my clients break life long patterns through just a few Reiki sessions. After 15 years of private session work, it STILL amazes me every time it happens!
#3) - RECEIVE COMMUNITY SUPPORT:
Nowadays people are used to being autonomous and it's easy to think you have to heal these things on your own, but humans are actually communal beings. When you're used to patterns of being busy or caretaking drama, the easiest way to help break that pattern is to surround yourself by other people who REFUSE to do that. Kinesthetically, you'll learn how to set new boundaries and shift your focus points and anchors in your everyday life.
You might find this type of support through a spiritual community, or you can cultivate friends consciously.
Here's an exercise: Right now, name the top 6 people you tend to spend time with. Are they constantly stressing out or filled with drama? If you had to rate the drama/stress level of their lives on a scale of 1 to 5, with 5 being HIGH INTENSITY, where do they fall. Now, because you spend time with these people constantly, you are likely resonating at the same level of intensity, OR you are compensating and caretaking for it. Think of bringing 1 or 2 new people into your friend circle who may not be as exciting, but who have a deeply grounded energy, and who have excellent boundaries around safety and well being. Over time, you will learn natural grounding patterns from these friends! Do you like this topic? Let me know with a big heart. 👇👇👇 And if you could use some real support around these themes, Contact me and tell me, "I need Busy Bee (or Drama) Support!" I have a few different classes in my Reiki practice and private coaching programs, with varying prices, that address this pattern, depending on where you're at. There's no reason to keep going in the same loop. Message me!❤️ love, Dailey
DAILEY LITTLE is a healing practitioner, transformational life coach, ordained Priestess, and teacher who founded Healing Heart Reiki to help others navigate life with joy. She offers private sessions, and teaches classes in healing and mindset from a magical peaceful corner of the world in Northern California. For more info see: www.SantaRosaReiki.com